The Journey

I spent years looking for the thing that would finally make the pain make sense.

What began as a search for answers about family estrangement became a much larger inquiry into grief, identity, belonging, and what it means to become whole when some of the relationships we most long to repair may never become what we need them to be.

A Personal Story

For a long time, I thought the answer was somewhere I just hadn’t looked yet.

I read the books. I went to therapy. I learned about attachment, trauma, family systems, boundaries, and the many ways our earliest relationships shape us. Each new framework gave me another piece of the story, and for a while, another reason to believe that if I could understand enough, heal enough, or find the right approach, I might finally reach the place where everything made sense.

There was purpose in that search. It helped me understand myself, change patterns that were hurting me, and build a life I am deeply grateful for. But underneath all of that growth was a grief I had never fully allowed myself to grieve.

I was still longing for relationships to become something they might never be. Still trying to understand my way toward an outcome I could not create on my own. And still carrying the quiet hope that perhaps one more insight, one more conversation, or one more kind of healing would finally change what I could not change.

Eventually, the question began to shift.

Instead of asking what else do I need to understand?, I began asking what have I never allowed myself to grieve?

That question changed the direction of my work—and my life.

Qualifications

Background & Training

My work lives at the intersection of research, lived experience, and human connection.

I’m a writer, educator, researcher, and counselor-in-training completing my M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I also hold a master’s degree in Organizational Psychology, and my academic and professional work has given me the opportunity to study human behavior from multiple perspectives—from the relationships and systems we live within to the inner experiences that shape identity, belonging, and how we understand ourselves.

Before entering the counseling field, I spent years working in behavioral research, education, and human-centered program design. That background taught me to look beyond individual behavior and ask larger questions about the systems, environments, and stories that shape how people understand themselves and move through the world.

My developing counseling orientation brings together relational and attachment perspectives, grief and loss, developmental and family-systems thinking, embodied awareness, meaning-making, and transpersonal ways of knowing. I’m particularly interested in approaches that honor both psychological research and the forms of wisdom that do not always arrive through analysis alone.

I don’t believe any single theory can explain a human life. My work is grounded in curiosity, complexity, and respect for the many ways people make meaning of what they have lived through.

M.A. in Organizational Psychology

Completed Graduate Degree

Academic foundation in organizational psychology and the study of human behavior within relationships, groups, systems, and environments.

M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling — In Progress

Counselor-in-Training

Graduate study in clinical mental health counseling with research and inquiry spanning grief, relational loss, identity, family dynamics, and belonging.

Research Focus: Grief, Relational Loss, Identity & Belonging

Ongoing Academic & Independent Inquiry

Research-informed exploration of grief and loss, complicated family relationships, identity development, belonging, meaning-making, and wholeness.

Writer · Educator · Researcher · Counselor-in-Training

Public & Professional Work

Writing, education, research, resources, workshops, and conversations that bring psychological research into relationship with lived experience and human complexity.

Some things are not asking to be solved. They are asking to be grieved.

Turning Point / Philosophy

Grief changed the way I understood healing. I began to see that some of my pain was not evidence that I had more work to do or another answer to find. Some of it was the natural response to loving people I could not change, needing things I could not go back and receive, and facing realities I had spent years hoping might become different.

Acceptance did not mean that what happened was okay, that the relationships did not matter, or that I had to stop loving the people involved. It meant becoming willing to see what was true without continuing to make my life dependent on it becoming something else.

And in that acceptance, something began to open.

The energy I had spent searching, understanding, anticipating, repairing, and hoping could begin turning inward. I could ask what my grief needed from me now. I could become more present to the parts of myself that had adapted, protected, disappeared, survived, and waited. I could begin developing a relationship with my own knowing rather than continually looking outside myself for the answer that would finally make everything okay.

I have come to understand healing less as a destination we arrive at and more as a return—a gradual coming home to ourselves, our lives, and the parts of us that have been waiting to be welcomed back.

Areas of Focus

The questions I keep returning to

My work continues to evolve, but I find myself returning again and again to the places where grief, relationships, identity, and belonging meet: the experiences that shape who we learn to be, what happens when those ways of being no longer fit, and how we begin finding our way back to ourselves.

Grief and Loss

The grief that lives inside relationships: estrangement, rupture, unmet needs, ambiguous loss, and the painful recognition that some relationships may never become what we hoped they would be.

Attachment & Belonging

How our earliest relationships shape the ways we seek love, safety, connection, and belonging—and what becomes possible when we notice those patterns without reducing ourselves or the people we love.

Identity & Becoming

Who we are beneath the roles, expectations, adaptations, and identities that once helped us belong—and what it means to become more fully ourselves without rejecting the lives or relationships that shaped us.

Finding Inner Wisdom

The movement from looking outside ourselves for answers toward trusting our own experience, making room for grief and complexity, and listening to deeper forms of knowing that help us find meaning and direction.

There is more to discover from here.

This work is still unfolding, just as we are. I write, teach, speak, and create spaces for exploring grief, complicated relationships, identity, belonging, and the questions that emerge when the lives we have been living begin asking something different of us.

If something here has given you language for your own experience, helped you feel less alone, or opened a question you want to keep exploring, I hope you’ll stay connected.

You can read the essays, explore the resources, join an upcoming conversation or workshop, or simply follow along as this work continues to take shape.

Wherever you are in your own process, you don’t need to know exactly where it is leading to begin listening to what is asking for your attention.

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